As a Life Make Over Consultant I’m here to help you overcome and grow from your personal challenges and live a truly creative and inspired life.
I have come a long way on my personal journey to be able to have the faith, experience and conviction to know that this is possible for you. And I know that, because it’s what I practise in my own personal life.
As a Buddhist of 30 years, my life has been about continual renewal and personal revelation. There have been many challenges, and every one of them has brought me closer to the real me: the soul that I am and not just the shell I find myself in.
If I can help you, in our busy society to come home to who you really are, then my personal journey will have been worth doing. We do not have to live with the illusion that we need to look right on the outside or else we might reveal the wretched, worthless souls that we believe we are underneath. That is the illusion that my work as a Life Make Over Consultant is here to smash. My numbers are just at the top to your right here.
It’s been in my nature, since however far back I can remember, to question the received wisdom of society and to challenge the ideas of authority. I’ve always asked, “why?” or better, “why not?” as I’ve faced various challenges in my life.
As a late teenager I rebelled into education: rebelled because it wasn’t the usual career path of my family and spent 4 years in poverty and stress. It was towards the end of that experience that I went through a most psychedelic experience! I was diagnosed schizophrenic! Most people would have succumbed to the diagnosis and allowed themselves to be defined by medical diagnosis. Somehow, I managed to escape that reality. And I think the ability to ask “Why?” and “Why not?” stood me in great stead. I recovered and never looked back.
I went through a few years of wilderness then really not having a great idea of who I was and what I was about. I thought I knew but really I was just lurching from one relationship to another, from one home to another, and though I was no longer schizophrenic or drugged up, my inner world was still not comfortable or stable.
A Stroke of Forgiveness
In my late 20’s circumstances forced me to re-evaluate my life. My spiritual practice of Buddhism, now took on a new meaning. I experienced spontaneous healing from psoriasis over a period of 5 or 6 weeks. Typical of that time was a huge sense of forgiveness of myself and a letting go of blocks and beliefs I used to think were absolute. I was full of hope for refashioning my future life. I saw it as an opportunity to grow into something I really wanted to do in my life.
Inspiring Young People to Challenge their Beliefs
I became a teacher and, actually, a mentor to the kids I taught. I knew how to overcome limiting beliefs about what we could and couldn’t achieve with our lives. I was inspired by their ability to listen and learn from me and I was inspired because I could make a difference.
Still Had a Heap of Personal Work to do
I married and divorced in quick succession – the fruits of which were my lovely daughter and a whole heap of personal stuff to work through! The marriage had profoundly challenged me and continued to challenge me for quite a few years. I felt bereft, lost, alone and vulnerable going through a hostile divorce. But the journey continued and I soldiered on, eventually inspired to train as a therapist.
My training was eclectic, integrative, and transpersonal. It looked at the human condition from every angle. It turned me inside and out. It examined every corner, and with the power of my Buddhist practice behind me, caused me to reach a state of clarity and insight. I felt at peace. I discovered who I really was. And I started to see the human vulnerability of everyone I met in my life and in my practice.
I was helped by an angel that was my partner for 10 years who held me stable while I grew. I will be indebted to him forever. .
“Your pain is but the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding”
The Ability to Let Go of the Familiar
I had to let go of what I thought I knew to explore a new consciousness and a different reality. The training I underwent incorporated Hypnotherapy which profoundly reached into my life to pull out the unconscious material that my cognitive process simply couldn’t conceive of. Once I could see what I was dealing with, I could change it. Buddhism held me steady while I allowed the unconscious to become conscious over a period of months.
- start your life from this moment onwards
- don’t do guilt
- understand you can create anything you want in life with inspired tenacity and personal insight
- never give up
- cherish your family
- respect and honour life
- learn balance, or to walk the middle way.
These are words of wisdom that are now at the heart of who I am as a person. I know anything is possible.
My Professional Work with Clients
My 12 years as a professional therapist, have taken me on an exhilarating journey as I’ve helped perhaps thousands of people wake up to their own power and become truly themselves. So much so that I can no longer really call myself therapist. Having freed myself of the limitations of models and techniques I now work intuitively with whichever tool or insight arises in connection with the clients I serve. So I have adopted the name ‘Life Make-over Consultant’!
Since 2010 I’ve been running professional mentorship groups for my colleagues as well as speaking more and more about my own personal experiences of recovery offering hope to many who are looking for someone to lead the way for them to discover their own path.
I believe, we all have the capacity to live great lives full of value, meaning and authenticity. I believe we are all on a journey and that we can choose the right people to help us onto the next stage of that journey.
‘When the student is ready, the teacher will appear’ Buddhist proverb
If we know what we are doing, and we trust ourselves deeply enough, we can heal from most things. This was also the case for me, in my more recent experience of a breast lump. I determined to seek deeply enough in my own heart and mind to discover where I could help myself. I profoundly realised I needed to reaffirm my capacity to live in the here and now and to face my fears of the future. Once I had faced them, there wasn’t much left that could scare me. It was with this insight I decided to challenge myself to believe I didn’t have to have any illness in my body. I’m a great believer in food as medicine so I cleaned up my diet too. The lump has now gone. You can read more about my mind and body philosophy by clicking on the link.
The social me
When I’m not working, I love dancing modern and latin jive, ballroom dance and salsa and am part of an inspired group of spiritual entrepreneurs who meet regularly in London. I’m also a passionate vegetable grower and spend hours on my allotment with nature as often as I can. I’m a passionate writer of all things personal development and have written several ebooks and am writing now my first publishable book on the personal development of therapists.
I would love to have the pleasure of working with you to help awaken you to your real choices in life, the authentic human choices that you can make, even though you may believe you can’t. Give me a call on 01371 859994 or 07773 919071. I’m ready to speak to you. My consulting rooms are on in Warnford Court, Throgmorton Street, City Of London, and Great Dunmow, Essex.
I also run workshops for personal development and for professional development of those who are also working in my field. I also speak to groups or organisations on my personal experience and deliver mentorship and training to my colleagues. I am a founding Director of The Open Mind College
Jenny is an integrative counsellor, psychotherapist, hypnotherapist and Coach and Buddhist of 30 years.
Jenny has 20 years of teaching experience in schools, colleges and university along with 12 years as a psychotherapist. She has guest lectured abroad and at home on subjects as diverse as Buddhism and Psychotherapy, Unlocking the Mysteries of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Integrating counselling skills into your hypnotherapy practice, how to raise self esteem in parents of disadvantaged families and isolation and stigma in the mental health service in the UK.
Jenny has developed an insight into the psycho-spiritual causes of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and was commissioned by her local PCT to offer therapy to their patients. She set up a CFS self help group called ‘the Open Mind group’ and launched her well known CPD training course for therapists in Chronic Fatigue Syndrome ‘Unlocking the mysteries of Chronic fatigue’. Since training over 70 therapists in treating CFS and now having diversified her training into a mentorship and supervision programme, she has written, and video and audio recorded a downloadable training package to enable therapists to take advantage of her specialist CFS knowledge.
Jenny now runs ‘TheOpenMindTherapist.com’ – a supervision and mentorship group for practising counsellors, psychotherapists and hypnotherapists offering personal development, business coaching, client supervision, and CPD and is currently writing her first book. She also runs a busy therapy practice. She is a Fellow of the National Council of Psychotherapists and holds the Senior Qualification in Hypnotherapy Practice awarded by the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council.
Jenny lives in Great Dunmow, Essex with her teenage daughter and works from her office and consulting room at home. She is co-founder and Director of The Open Mind College with Peter Phelps.